When we add sex to the equation, with its tremendous potential for ego and rejection problems, it sometimes amazes me that the divorce rate isn’t closer to 90%. Is it any wonder that sexual problems derail so many relationships when without dealing with this issue people in all types of close relationships have such difficulty connecting emotionally on an ongoing basis. It is very unfortunate that humans are so often unable to understand and accept their innate sexual nature. Guilt and the resulting judgment come from a lack of both understanding and acceptance. A person may experience guilt and feelings of inadequacy due to feeling that perhaps one is undersexed, or guilt and feelings of being abnormal if one views oneself as being too sexual – this would be particularly true for women. Whether a person is highly sexual, or less sexually inclined, there tends to be guilt associated with sexual needs. This is extremely important information to have in order to fully understand one’s own sexual nature and is also vitally important in telling us about a mate or potential partner. While certainly parental attitudes toward sex and an individual’s early sexual encounters can have a strong influence on one’s comfort zone regarding sex, the astrological chart tells us about basic sexual needs and how they are tied to a person’s emotional nature. Another chart may indicate that the person is more sexual and open to experiencing new things. One chart will produce an individual who is perhaps less focused on sex, more shy or reserved regarding sex, and less able to communicate sexual needs. It is enormously helpful to understand how chart influences affect a person’s basic sex drive, sexual energy, and attitudes toward sex. Perhaps one of the biggest problems that couples face is simply a lack of insight regarding their mate’s true sexual needs and desires.
Sex with a new partner is not usually all that emotionally meaningful. Therefore, sex becomes more fulfilling and more emotionally rewarding. But, within a healthy emotional environment, sex will change only in that it will become better as two people become more aware of one another’s sexual preferences and desires and more emotionally connected. Certainly, newness is a contributing factor to the initial level of interest in, and desire for sex. They assume that only in the beginning does the excitement and novelty of a new partner create a strong sexual focus. It’s surprising how many people feel that it’s normal for sexual desire to diminish after the first few months, and perhaps significantly after a few years. It may be just that one or both parties don’t seem to be as interested in sex as they were in the beginning. Initially, it may be wonderful, but then so often things run amuck. Sex is such an important part of a relationship and yet so many couples have sexual problems.
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